What Do You Want?
By Michael A. Verdicchio
God has promised Christians that He will give us the desires of our heart. That
is a very big promise from a very big God!
What do you want? Can you name five things off the top of your head that you
want? Do you want to have a better marriage, more income, a better job, better
health or more time?
When you want something, you are actually admitting to yourself that you are in
a state of lack. You wish you had something, but you don't have it. (And, if you
start wanting it badly, that just reinforces that fact that you don't have it.)
Let me explain.
When you just "want something," it emphasizes and puts all the focus on that
want, what it is that you lack. Your focus and attention stays on the fact that
you don't have it. What you focus on is what you will manifest in your life.
What you focus on is evidenced by how you speak about it. And, the words you say
and think are many times a reflection of what you believe in your heart. That is
why what you say and think is so important.
For example, if you say, "I want a better job," what does that communicate to
your mind? First, it reminds you that for some reason you are not happy with
your current job. The word "want" communicates that something is lacking. But
"wanting" is just a fixed state of mind without any action. When you say, "I'm
not happy with my current job," and "I want a better job," not only are you
focusing on lack, you really aren't doing anything about your situation.
But, when you decide to take some action to change your situation, you move from
just "wanting" to pursuing. That makes a big difference.
Wanting something is very passive. But, if you really desire something, you
pursue it; you go after it. To have a desire for something requires attention
and energy. Having a desire is active and aggressive.
Make no mistake; this is not a game of semantics. Life is no game either.
Christians who go through life "wanting this" and "wishing for that" spend their
whole lives just wanting and wishing. But Christians who really desire something
have passion, energy, and a decisive attitude to see it come to pass. They are
motivated to take action. They actively seek to achieve instead of complaining
about what they don't have.
Wanting something indicates that you lack something. You are without something,
you are not sufficient or you are coming up short somewhere. By using the word
"want" in referring to your situation, you only remind yourself of all that you
don't have.
Just look up the word "want" in the dictionary and see what it means.
Substituting the dictionary definitions of the word "want," the above example
would read, "I am without a better job," or, "I am lacking a better job." Now,
perhaps you would never go so far as to say it that way, but it is very
important to understand just what certain words really communicate to our minds.
On the other hand, using a couple of the definitions of "desire," the above
example would read, "I am longing for a better job," or, "I am craving a better
job." There is quite a difference isn't there? Can you see the passion in the
latter?
Most Christians can quickly name five things that they "want." But how many can
you name that you "desire?" In other words, what is it in your life that you are
passionate about, that you are willing to actively pursue and that you have an
earnest desire to see come to pass?
It is a simple key. Saying you, "want this" and "want that" doesn't change
anything. It only reminds you of your current situation in life. But when you
change the word "want" to the word, "desire," things can change. Why? If you
truly desire something, you will start taking action. Taking action is an
important step towards seeing it come to pass.
Are your goals things that you "want," or are they things that you "desire"? Do
you just want a better job, or do you desire to have a better job? If you desire
a better job then that is something that you will actively pursue until it comes
to pass.
I'm not saying that using the word "want" is self-defeating or self-destructive.
You may very well say, "I want a better job, and because I want a better job, I
am going to do something about it." That kind of statement has moved from
passive to active. It has passion and direction. A statement like that is far
from someone just saying, "I wish I had a better job.
Christians should have no lack. Psalm 23 says, "The Lord is my shepherd, I shall
not want!"
What is it that you really desire? Write those things down, and when you look at
them, don't just wish that you had them, don't stay passive, get active. Start
pursuing! And, ask God to help you, because He said in the Bible that He would
give you the "desires" of your heart.